Social commentators tell us the conversation America desperately needs but is afraid to have is about race. There is no question that racists still exist in America. Haters exist in every society and always will. It is human nature for some people to not accept others for any number of reasons, most often irrational reasons. But as a society, the vast majority of Americans no longer see color of skin when associating with friends, neighbors and co-workers. America is no longer a racist country and hasn't been for more than five decades. The Civil Rights Act of 1964 and other legislation of that era would never have passed if it was. Nor would we have an African-American president and qualified, competent black people in the top jobs in every field of endeavor.
The conversation America needs to have is about men and women. Men are constantly accused of sexual harassment and rape if they so much as glance or smile at a woman. If a female accuses a male of doing anything she thinks is sexually motivated he can lose his job, be kicked out of school, or go to jail. There is never any assumption of innocence until proven guilty. Media generated public opinion, educational institution administrators, and the courts always assume the female is telling the truth and the man is guilty. Why is that? That's the conversation America needs to have.
The conversation America needs to have is about men and women. Men are constantly accused of sexual harassment and rape if they so much as glance or smile at a woman. If a female accuses a male of doing anything she thinks is sexually motivated he can lose his job, be kicked out of school, or go to jail. There is never any assumption of innocence until proven guilty. Media generated public opinion, educational institution administrators, and the courts always assume the female is telling the truth and the man is guilty. Why is that? That's the conversation America needs to have.
Of course no means no. If a man makes physical contact with a woman after she has told him not to, then he should be arrested and punished. But having second thoughts the next day or claiming advantage was taken because of alcohol does not constitute a viable claim of assault or rape. If mean girls are capable of making up lies about their rivals, they are certainly capable of making up lies about men. Unfortunately, bogus claims are often made against men, yet the man is still held accountable and subject to prosecution. That is just plain wrong.
To take all that a step further, it is very confusing that a book, and now a movie (Fifty Shades of Grey), about sexual domination and submission can become a record setting best seller among women at the same time many women in real life react to the attention of men by subjecting them to punishment for criminal intent. It is very confusing that the clothes women wear are an attempt to look as sexy as possible, but men are accused of being perverts if they notice. It is very confusing when nearly every television show popular among women is about sex, but men are the ones considered to have nothing but sex on their minds. It is very confusing that it is perfectly acceptable for guys like Bill Clinton to be known sexual predators and yet worshipped by most women. It is also very confusing today as to what actually constitutes sexual harassment? What used to be innocent comments can today get men in big trouble.
Apparently a lot of women spend a significant amount of time thinking about sex, but think nothing of condemning men for having the same thoughts. In politically correct America these double standards are the norm. Personally, I am inclined to believe more often than not the female probably has some justification for her allegation. There are a lot of degenerate men in the world, just like there are a lot of female teasers. But men are not always the perpetrators of the crime. Unless there is incriminating evidence other than a woman's word, innocent men will be among the punished. It would be nice if society would acknowledge that there are two sides to every accusation of sexual harassment.
Apparently a lot of women spend a significant amount of time thinking about sex, but think nothing of condemning men for having the same thoughts. In politically correct America these double standards are the norm. Personally, I am inclined to believe more often than not the female probably has some justification for her allegation. There are a lot of degenerate men in the world, just like there are a lot of female teasers. But men are not always the perpetrators of the crime. Unless there is incriminating evidence other than a woman's word, innocent men will be among the punished. It would be nice if society would acknowledge that there are two sides to every accusation of sexual harassment.
